There is a relatively new term known as a "shut up ring". In a nutshell, a shut up ring is an engagement/wedding ring given to the woman by the man to quiet the pressure of potential marriage or a potential proposal.
Ladies, you must understand that we as men know very quickly what our intentions are for you.
It may be a simple one night stand. It may be a short term fling. It may be a friends-with-benefits type of relationship. It may be marriage.
The point is: Men know.
The women who are recipients of Shut Up Rings are either ignorant of how men operate and/or are ignoring what their gut is saying and don't want to start all over.
Ladies, deep down, your gut is telling you what his intentions are. Your gut knows if he wants to marry you or string you along. Listen to your intuition.
So what can you do to ensure you don't become a recipient of these rings?
The first rule is to know what kind of relationship you are in.
Your relationship must be clearly and emphatically defined. You are his exclusive girlfriend, fiance, or wife.
If he can't provide a one word label of who you are to him, move on. He should be able to put a label on you within a month.
It is more than okay to ask a man "What are we?". If he's serious about you, he can label no problem. If he can't or won't, he's not serious about you.
The second rule has two parts. The first part of Rule #2 is to date no longer than a year.
After 365 days, if he hasn't proposed, you need to break up with him. No questions asked.
If he has proposed within a year, congratulations!
The second part of Rule #2 is to be engaged no longer than a year.
If he doesn't marry you a year after proposing, break off the engagement. No questions asked.
Men who are serious about you don't like holding the Boyfriend or Fiance title very long. Men who are serious want the title of Husband and he wants you as his Wife.
Until next time...
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