Recently, where my wife and I live, there was a freeze. Snow and ice and cold all over the place.
Now being a born-and-bred native Southern Californian who also has Sickle Cell Anemia, I will tell you that me and Hear Miser have at least two things in common: Dance moves and the fact that we never want to know a day that's under 60 degrees.
I absolutely despise the cold and anything related to the cold.
Anyway, I got home one night and had absolutely no desire to go back out into the cold for any reason.
My pregnant wife emotionally and mentally wasn't feeling her best. She told me that she really wanted a date night and wanted to spend some time with me. She wanted to go out, grab some fast food, and come back home and watch a movie as we snuggled.
Now, I absolutely love my wife and am incredibly attracted to her in so many ways. But the last thing I wanted to do at that moment was get dressed and go back outside.
My wife had stayed home while I had worked all day. So in my mind, I felt that she was ignoring how I was feeling and how fatigued I was.
But in marriage, you need to give your spouse the benefit of the doubt.
If you both pick wisely, they aren't the enemy. They aren't against you. They aren't trying to use you.
As I looked into her beautiful eyes, I realized my wife simply wanted to reconnect with me. She wasn't ignoring my emotions. She was expressing her desire to be with me.
But I still wasn't in the mood. So you know what I did?
I ignored my mood. Why should my mood dictate my actions?
So I got up and got dressed. We got in my car and headed to get some food and went back home. We decided on the live-action version of The Jungle Book and had a great time. Most importantly, my wife and I reconnected and added an extra layer of love and toughness onto the foundation of our relationship.
What's my point here?
Mood is overrated. Whim shouldn't dictate how you live your life.
Until next time...
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